Your Past Affects Your Present

“Admitting is the first step to acknowledging. Accepting is the last step before doing something about it.” - Unknown

Your past traumas can affect your present dramas. In my healing journey, this was a lesson that took me a bit to understand. It can be hard to figure out if you don’t believe you have any past traumas. It can also be hard to figure out if you feel that other people are the only ones responsible for your present dramas. I am not saying all dramas are from your trauma. Keeping an open mind to the possibility helps.

So how do we know this is the case? There are certain ways our scars expose us. We can feel convicted by them and take blame. We can feel apprehensive and fear doing anything more. Our insecurities need those around us to compliment us often. Our weaknesses need others to be smaller. Our failures need others to fail as well. These traumas don’t only affect us, They affect others in our lives. Aside from those we lash out on or push away or anything like that. Unfortunately these can then be transferred, causing a cycle to be created as we pass our fears onto our children.

What can we do about it? It’s up to us to look within to heal ourselves, stop this cycle and move forward. It’s also up to us to stop the hurt. The hurt that we take and pass forward to others. Because why should we be the only ones hurting, right? Not at all. They don’t deserve that hurt and you especially did not deserve that hurt to begin with. It is a broken world that tries to continue this broken cycle but God has sent His son to show us different. To show us love. Real love. Love that is rare and hard to find. It’s the source of our healing.

Our healing leads to a new beginning. 

So after accepting, we forgive them, forgive ourselves, forgive again and again. Because it won’t always need to happen once. The anger can return with triggers and we must forgive again. Not talking about it doesn’t mean you’ve forgiven, but it helps. Rehashing pain has no benefits. It’s hurts on repeat. As long as you’re not talking just to push it down. Forgiveness releases and gives it to God. Releasing allows for the moment of letting go to occur. In order to jump we must let go. In order to fly we must jump. In order to soar we must fly. So one step at a time and you will get there.  You will make it. Nothing is impossible for the One who made you. He will guide you and get you through. 

With each step your purpose becomes more clear. Your light shines brighter. Your future begins to shine. You can look back and see the picture better. It’s harder to see a photo up against your face so why would you expect to understand your story entirely when you’re still in it. Give God a chance to walk you through it. The past starts to get further behind and so does that cloud. Remember, you are doing it for you and others around you. Reflect and respect. Are you walking on the healthy path making way for that glow to begin and to spread. Your healing will make a huge difference in yours and others’ lives. It can inspire, teach and guide. It’s an example that it is possible. It shows the way how. It helps and encourages along the way. It gives hope and blesses. That pain has become a purpose. A mission. A desire to help, rescue and restore.